When discussing various kinks with some fellow kinksters, got me thinking about Humiliation and Degrading. Then one of our BDSM groups we’re associated with had it as a topic recently. So it got me wondering if it was my cup of tea or not. I thought it wasn't but then I look back at some of the things I like my partner to do and say to me and wonder if it is the same. I am not sure so I did some research.
In the research, I found that Humiliation is when you make someone embarrassed like doing a simple thing like running around the house naked while you have company over, where degrading is to lower and treat a subject like a piece of furniture or animal. So It answered my personal question that I do like a little degrading.
Do you have trouble finding ideas on how to humiliate or degrade your partner? We found a good list of them to try if it's your thing.
Force a male sub to wear slutty women’s lingerie (force cross-dressing).
If it’s a woman, make her go out with no underwear beneath her clothing.
Make them go to the grocery store and buy the largest cucumber or eggplant they can find and a bottle of lube.
Make them wear a chastity belt under their clothes when they go to work.
Make them wear a smartphone-controlled sex toy (like a butt plug, love egg, or prostate massager) when they go out and set it off whenever you wish.
Tie them up outside and leave them there for a designated period. Note: Nobody should be left alone and tied up without some supervision in case there is an emergency. That person may need to be untied quickly.
Make him tan while wearing a bikini.
Make them wear embarrassing outfits when they go out – take it an extra step and make them go to a Wal-Mart (the store is infamous for customers with strange clothing – their photo will probably end up on some social media site).
If it’s a man, make him wear panties and a bra under their clothes.
Make them perform rimming (on their Dom or even another person).
Have them shave off all their body hair, eyebrows too
Make him wear feminine deodorant or perfume.
Make him sit down to pee.
Make them write something on social media.
Always make sure you get consent and discuss your scenes and role-play with your partner. The humiliation and/or degrading should be something that is within the limits of those involved. Find out hard and soft limits. Soft limits are those that can sometimes be pushed more, whereas hard limits should never be crossed. Make sure that you discuss safe play as well. What is safe for me may not be safe or safe enough for the next person. The point is to do what is safe for you and your partner(s).
So I think this is a kink I am going to want to check into more especially if it is something I could use a wireless dildo for. I could imagine sentencing my partner to a day at home with the dildo in his rear and I would control it from work throughout the day.
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